It is always difficult to express what we feel really in the heart. We cannot express as it is straight from the heart. There should have some process to make it clear, what we are trying to say, and how it can be accepted by the receiver. I still struggle a lot to be confident on saying yes or no. Of course , everyone of has the same, bubbling into the mind to expose it at the right time. My attitude press me to deliver words which should not affect anyone, though it hurts me a lot.;) But everyone will not have the same opinion, whether right or wrong , need to express what we feel will make your heart lighter without any stress. The conclusion cannot relies on either side, it fits right depends on your situation.